'I was forced to cheat on wife after kids ruined sex life - why my betrayal is justified'

A husband has admitted to on his wife several times and blamed their 'non-existent sex life' after welcoming children. The husband, who has remained anonymous, claimed he was driven to sleep with other women because he felt 'deprived'.

He has now opened up on the reasoning behind his infidelity after 20 years of The 40-year-old-something told : "I've been married for 20 years, and over the past five, I've had several affairs and numerous flings. And - be as disapproving as you like - I don't regret it."

He shared that while he's welcomed two "fantastic daughters" with his wife, switching from partners to parents hasn't been the easiest journey. He claimed having children can turn lovinginto "exhausted comrades in arms - at worst, adversaries" and can severely impact the couple's sex life, "spelling disaster".

The couple got married four years into their relationship, and he said at first, "Everything was great". He detailed: "We had lots in common, enjoyed spending time together and had a great sex life, making love every day. Sex with her was the best and always left me feeling satisfied like I could take on the ."

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A year after tying the knot, they welcomed their first daughter and two years later became a family of four when their second daughter was born. The husband explained that becoming a father changed him "profoundly" as he became "more patient and tolerant", knowing he had to put his daughter and wife first.

However, he claimed parenthood changed his wife in ways he "didn't like". He said: "Suddenly, the woman I desired, and who used to desire me, would barely touch me. If I tried to initiate sex, she would move away or say she was tired, leaving me upset and frustrated."

With a two-year-old and baby in the house, he said they had a "non-existent sex life", which he explained was a stark difference from their sex life before kids, "my wife used to make the effort to seduce me." As the couple settled into parenthood, the husband declared he felt "cheated and deprived" as his wife focused on the kids and wore "baggy T-shirts and jogging bottoms."

He said he suggested date nights to ignite the spark, offered to pay for a babysitter and recommended a holiday together. However, "nothing changed" despite "trying to talk about it", and he said it would lead to arguments. "She accused me of being selfish and only thinking about my needs", he noted.

As the children grew older, he thought their sex life would start to improve as they became more independent. However, he claimed, "it got worse". After a 15-year marriage and "bedroom knockbacks" from his wife, while also sleeping in separate bedrooms, the husband began to stray.

Despite "not wanting to cheat" and "still loving" his wife, the husband started to get closer to women during nights out or drinks after work. He said he felt "scared, cautious and, above all, guilty" but ultimately "enjoyed the thrill of the chase again."

Within six months, he was going to clubs and talking to "countless women" at least one night every weekend. He kept a separate phone to message the women, dressed differently and avoided going out locally so he wouldn't be caught.

He said things were better at home as he "wasn't frustrated" with his wife and was "more patient", claiming to be a "better husband" and father as his "sexual needs were being met". Things took a turn when he secured a new job. He stopped wearing his wedding ring and introduced himself as a single man without kids. "People only knew I was married if they asked," he said.

He found a connection with a younger woman and "wined and dined her" before confessing he was a married man. Their courtship continued for three months, and during that time, they met every day after work to have sex. He ended things after she began to "fall for him", claiming he wanted to be "carefree".

The cheating husband went on to have a sex-filled weekend with a 32-year-old fitness coach he met on and has since had further affairs with multiple other women. He stated that he ensures any affairs "lasts less than a month" to avoid any feelings developing from the women.

While he grapples with the guilt of knowing "cheating is wrong", he added: "My wife is just as guilty as I am for letting things slide." He explained that there's still a part of him that "loves" his wife and "wants to play happy families". He also said he doesn't want a divorce or to break up their "family home".

Claiming he's "not arrogant", the husband noted that he "can't be the only man who has been driven to stray" or has been tempted after welcoming children with their partner. Nevertheless, he affirmed that he didn't go into the marriage with the intention of being unfaithful and that he had been "deeply in love".

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